Relationship Counselling for Couples

I aim to create a safe, supportive and inpartial environment whereby couples can process their thoughts and feelings and gain insight into interpersonal patterns that keep them from living and loving to their full potential. I have also worked for Family Violence services so have a good understanding of issues of abuse, power and control. 

I use both Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) when working with couples.  Psychodynamic Psychotherapy provides insights on Psychological Defences (coping mechanisms) and the impact on past events, hurts, and early experiences on current ways of relating. 

EFT provides an effective and integrative therapy model for addressing adult relationship problems.  It is a process orientated and experiential approach that is based on an understanding of Attachment Theory and Adult emotional patterns. Research studies have found that after EFT 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. EFT is usually a short term (8-20 sessions), structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the early 1980's by Dr Sue Johnson and Dr. Les Greenberg. There are several steps of the Therapy Process in this model and the process occurs over three stages as listed below:

 Stage One:

Steps 1 & 2: Assessment: Getting an understanding of your issues and relationship themes.

Steps 3 & 4: Accessing underlying feelings & emotions behind the interactions with your partner.

 Stage Two:

Steps 5 & 6: Deepening your engagement as a couple through identifying disowned attachment needs and aspects of your self, while integrating these into your relationship. Exploring new, healthier ways of interacting.

Step 7: Your and your partner's needs and wants are expressed and we focus on creating emotional engagement and bonding events as a couple, to bring you closer together and understand each other more.

 Stage Three:

Step 8: Discovering and starting to use new solutions to old relationship problems. Facilitating positive change.

Step 9: We work on helping you consolidate healthier ways of relating and strengthening yourself and your relationship through new behaviours and ways of communicating. We will also plan for ways of increasing the likelihood that positive changes will be maintained, by planning for ways of dealing with setbacks and devising strategies for stressful life difficulties.